Showing posts with label self help. Show all posts
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Thursday, October 12, 2023

NubianNewYorkers - TURN STRESS INTO A POSITIVE! Steps to make it make you better!

 

Live performers and artists often use stress to enhance their performance. Stress can provide a boost of energy and focus that can help them to give their best performance. It can also help them to connect with their audience on a deeper level.

Here are some specific ways that live performers and artists use stress to enhance their performance:

  • To increase motivation and focus: "I love the pressure. It's what makes me perform at my best." - Michael Jordan
  • To create a sense of urgency: "I think the pressure is good. It keeps you focused and makes you perform at your best." - Serena Williams
  • To connect with the audience: "When I'm on stage, I can feel the energy of the audience. It's like a feedback loop that helps me to give my best performance." - Beyoncé
  • To push themselves to new limits: "I love the challenge of performing in front of a live audience. It pushes me to be my best and to give a performance that they will never forget." - Coldplay

Pro athletes, live performers, and artists use stress to enhance performance in a variety of ways. Here are a few examples:

-They channel stress into motivation.** Stress can be a powerful motivator. When athletes, performers, and artists feel stressed, they can use that energy to fuel their performance. For example, a basketball player might feel stressed before a big game, but they can use that stress to motivate themselves to play their best.

-They use stress to focus and concentrate.** Stress can also help people to focus and concentrate. When athletes, performers, and artists are feeling stressed, they are more likely to be aware of their surroundings and to be in the present moment. This can be helpful for performing at a high level.

-They use stress to increase their awareness.** Stress can also increase people's awareness of their bodies and minds. This can be helpful for athletes, performers, and artists because it allows them to make adjustments to their performance as needed. For example, a dancer might feel stressed before a big performance, but they can use that stress to increase their awareness of their body and to make sure that they are moving in a fluid and graceful way.

-They use stress to create a sense of urgency.** Stress can also create a sense of urgency, which can be helpful for athletes, performers, and artists because it can motivate them to perform their best. For example, a musician might feel stressed before a concert, but they can use that stress to create a sense of urgency and to motivate themselves to play their best.

It is important to note that not everyone reacts to stress in the same way. Some people may perform better under pressure, while others may perform worse. It is important for athletes, performers, and artists to find what works best for them and to develop strategies for managing stress in a healthy way.

 

 Here are some tips for using stress to enhance performance:

-Identify your triggers.** What are the things that typically cause you to feel stressed? Once you know what your triggers are, you can start to develop strategies for managing them.


-Develop coping mechanisms.** There are a variety of coping mechanisms that you can use to manage stress, such as deep breathing, meditation, and exercise. Find coping mechanisms that work for you and practice them regularly.

-Create a positive mindset.** Try to view stress as a challenge or an opportunity for growth. This will help you to stay calm and focused under pressure.

-Be kind to yourself.** It's perfectly normal to feel stressed sometimes. Don't beat yourself up about it. Just remember that you have the tools to manage your stress and cope in a healthy way.

**Techniques:**

-Deep breathing:** Deep breathing is one of the simplest and most effective ways to reduce stress. It activates the parasympathetic nervous system, which is responsible for the "rest and digest" state. To do deep breathing, simply sit or lie down in a comfortable position and place one hand on your chest and the other on your stomach. Inhale slowly and deeply through your nose, allowing your stomach to expand. Exhale slowly through your mouth, allowing your stomach to contract. Continue breathing deeply for 5-10 minutes.


-Meditation: Meditation is another great way to reduce stress and improve your overall well-being. It involves focusing your attention on the present moment and letting go of thoughts about the past or future. There are many different types of meditation, so you can find one that works best for you.

-Exercise: Exercise is a great way to release stress and improve your physical and mental health. When you exercise, your body releases endorphins, which have mood-boosting effects. Aim for at least 30 minutes of moderate-intensity exercise most days of the week.

-Spend time in nature: Spending time in nature has been shown to reduce stress, improve mood, and boost creativity. If you can, try to spend some time outside each day, even if it's just for a few minutes.

-Connect with loved ones: Spending time with loved ones can help to reduce stress and improve your mood. Social support is important for mental and physical health. Make time for the people who are important to you.

 

**Thought patterns:**

-Challenge negative thoughts: When you have a negative thought about stress, ask yourself if it is really true. Is stress always bad? Or can it be a motivator and help you to perform better? If the thought is not true, challenge it and replace it with a more positive thought.

-Reframe stress: Instead of seeing stress as something negative, try to see it as a challenge or an opportunity for growth. When you reframe stress in this way, it can be less overwhelming and more motivating.

-Focus on the positive: When you are feeling stressed, try to focus on the positive aspects of your situation. What are you grateful for? What are your strengths? Focusing on the positive can help to reduce stress and improve your mood.

 

**Physiological facts:**

-Stress can improve performance: Stress can actually improve performance in certain situations. For example, if you are about to give a presentation, a little bit of stress can help you to focus and be more alert. However, too much stress can have a negative impact on performance.

-Stress can boost creativity: Stress can also boost creativity. When you are under stress, your brain is more open to new ideas and perspectives. This can be helpful for problem-solving and coming up with innovative solutions.

-Stress can make you stronger: Stress can also make you stronger, both physically and mentally. When you are exposed to stress, your body adapts to become more resilient. This means that you will be able to handle stress better in the future.

It is important to note that stress is not always a good thing. Too much stress can lead to a number of health problems, including anxiety, depression, and heart disease. However, if you can learn to manage stress effectively, it can actually be beneficial for your overall health and well-being.

 

Here are some tips for retraining your mind to perceive stress as an enhancement:

-Start small: Don't try to change your mindset about stress overnight. Start by practicing some of the techniques and thought patterns listed above for a few minutes each day. Over time, you will start to see a difference.

-Be patient: It takes time and practice to retrain your mind. Don't get discouraged if you don't see results immediately. Just keep practicing and you will eventually reach your goal.

-Be kind to yourself: Be understanding and compassionate with yourself when you are feeling stressed. It's perfectly normal to feel stressed sometimes. Just remember that you have the tools to manage your stress and cope in a healthy way.

By following these tips, you can retrain your mind to perceive stress as an enhancement. This will help you to perform better under pressure, boost your creativity, and become more resilient.

 

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Tuesday, August 01, 2023

LIFE LESSON- TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE

 


- The speaker used to be scared of horror movies as a child and would hide from the screen.

- One day, the speaker changed their approach and started watching horror movies actively, which reduced their fear.

- The speaker relates this experience to procrastination, saying that procrastination often stems from fear of failure.

- To overcome procrastination, the first step is to acknowledge the fear behind it.

- Meditation can be helpful in clearing the mind and managing emotions.

- Create a productive environment by finding the right place to work.

- Taking breaks during work is normal and healthy to stay fresh and focused.

- It's essential to set realistic expectations for how long you can focus on a task.

- Failure is a natural part of trying and learning, so don't let it stop you from starting something new.

- Focus on the first steps of a task to avoid feeling overwhelmed.

- Celebrate your milestones to feel motivated and keep going.

- Set aside dedicated time for working on your goals.

- Don't dwell on past mistakes; focus on the present and keep trying.

- Building self-discipline takes time, and you can use countdown methods to get started.

- Surround yourself with supportive friends who encourage you to achieve your goals.

- Resilience can be developed through mindset shifts and healthy habits.

- Accept that life isn't always fair and focus on the positive things you have.

- When feeling unmotivated, take the first small step towards your task.

- View setbacks and failures as learning experiences and opportunities to pivot.

- Consistency and time are key to seeing results and achieving your goals.

- Spacing out learning and using flashcards can be more effective than cramming.

- Acknowledge when you are not fine with your current situation to create motivation for change.

- Listening to motivational content can help kickstart your motivation.

- Write down tasks and decisions to reduce decision fatigue and feel more organized.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

LIFE LESSON - 3 DAILY HABITS TO GET MORE DONE IN A DAY

 

- Habit 1: "Organize Tomorrow Today"

- Imagine a game with questions worth different amounts of money.

- You can win big by answering three high-value questions, but you don't know which ones they are.

- In real life, treat your tasks like the game. Before lunch, spend five minutes planning for tomorrow.

- Write down three important things you must do and highlight the most crucial one.

- Your brain will work on these tasks while you sleep, making you more prepared and less anxious the next day.



- Habit 2: "Say No"

- Sometimes, we have to choose between urgent and important things.

- Urgent things feel like they need immediate attention, but they might not be essential.

- You should prioritize important things, like spending time with family or finishing important work.

- Learn to say no to things that are urgent but not as important to focus on what truly matters.



- Habit 3: "Focus on One Thing at a Time"

- Trying to focus on too many things at once can lead to underperformance and lost confidence.

- Productive people focus intensely on important tasks, like intense fire without smoke.

- Avoid multitasking and concentrate on one goal at a time to achieve better results.



- Building New Habits:

- It's a continuous process; habits get stronger or weaker depending on your attention.

- Struggles are normal when building habits; recognize the struggle phase and focus on positive emotions.

- Visualize how your life will be in five years if you don't stick to your desired changes.

- Overcome discouragement by staying committed and not making too many exceptions.

- Be prepared for disruptions, but keep going and stay focused on your goals.



- Summary:

- Organize your tasks for tomorrow, focus on the three most important ones, and complete them first.

- Say no to less important things, even if they seem urgent.

- Concentrate on one task at a time and visualize your future success.

- Building habits takes time and effort, but it's worth it to achieve your goals.



Of course! Here's the revised "To-Do" list template with five places to write after each lesson and motivational words in parentheses:



```

[Step 1] Organize Tomorrow Today:

(Make Every Day Count!)



1. ________________________________________________________

2. ________________________________________________________

3. ________________________________________________________

4. ________________________________________________________

5. ________________________________________________________



[Step 2] Say No to the Right Things:

(Choose What Truly Matters!)



1. ________________________________________________________

2. ________________________________________________________

3. ________________________________________________________

4. ________________________________________________________

5. ________________________________________________________



[Step 3] Focus on One Thing at a Time:

(Concentrate on Your Goals!)



1. ________________________________________________________

2. ________________________________________________________

3. ________________________________________________________

4. ________________________________________________________

5. ________________________________________________________



[Step 4] Building New Habits:

(Grow Stronger Every Day!)



1. ________________________________________________________

2. ________________________________________________________

3. ________________________________________________________

4. ________________________________________________________

5. ________________________________________________________



[Step 5] Overcoming Discouragement:

(Rise Above Challenges!)



1. ________________________________________________________

2. ________________________________________________________

3. ________________________________________________________

4. ________________________________________________________

5. ________________________________________________________



[Step 6] Be Prepared for Disruptions:

(Stay Resilient and Adapt!)



1. ________________________________________________________

2. ________________________________________________________

3. ________________________________________________________

4. ________________________________________________________

5. ________________________________________________________

```



Feel free to use this template to organize your daily tasks and goals, and let the motivational words inspire you to take action and achieve your dreams!

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Sunday, January 01, 2017

SELF HELP- GOT GOALS? START SMALL, START TODAY!!

LIFE LESSON- 90 days from today is April 1st (beginning of April). If you have a goal you cant afford to waste a day. It takes 66 days to form a new habit..the easy part is STARTING SMALL, the hard part is STICKING TO IT, but after 66 days it will be easier because the habit will have been developed.



Take one guy who never worked out who does ONE push-up today and does one, or more, for the next 66 days.... Take another guy who saves ONE dollar today, and saves $1, or more each day for the next 66 days.. After 66 days when the habit is established and the behavior carries on.. the guy who did one push-up today will be SEXY AS HELL on Jan 1st 2018 and the guy who saved $1 today will have money to spoil himself with on Jan 1st 2018.


What would you like to improve about your life? START SMALL and STICK WITH IT for 66 days.. develop the habit and change your life.
You are a HERO. Everybody knows it. But dont forget to help YOURSELF and not just the rest fo the world.


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Tuesday, December 08, 2009

How to Be Happy Everyday: Is it Really Possible?


 

Do you think that it's impossible to be happy every day? I don't! Notice, I did NOT say to be happy every moment of every day, but rather to be happy ever day.

We all have times of heartache, fear, depression, disappointment and so on, but in the midst of those negative emotions and hardships of life, I fully believe that it is possible to be happy at least part of every day.



Here are my suggestions for being happy every day.

1. Look on the bright side. You know, there is always a bright side, even in the midst of a bad day or even bad period of time in your life. For instance, if you lose your job, the bright side may be that you are now free to pursue a job you've always wanted. Perhaps the loss of the job and thus the necessity for looking for a new job may be just the push you need to pursue your dream job. Looking on the bright side of every situation can help you to be happy every day.

2. Talk to yourself. Yes, that's right. There are times when it is necessary to talk to yourself. King David in the Bible had all kinds of problems, including people trying to kill him, and yet he always managed to rise above his depression. He chose to be happy in part by talking to himself. For example, in Psalm 42:5 he asked himself questions such as, "Soul, why are you cast down?" and then concluded by saying, "Hope in God!" He dealt honestly with his feelings of despair and then gave himself a pep talk. I think that David's tendency to talk to himself helped him to be happy every day. Talking to yourself can also help you to be happy every day.

3. Talk to God. The great thing about God is that He is always there and always willing to listen. People may not be around when you need to complain or talk about your concerns, but whether you are in the middle of a busy day or in the stillness of the night, God is there with you, and He is more than willing to listen. Sometimes knowing that you are not alone in your struggle by simply talking to God can help you to be happy every day.

4. Send notes of encouragement to other people. Has someone done something nice for you? Think about all the people in your past who have had a positive impact on your life. Make a list of them, and one by one, over time, write notes of encouragement and appreciation. This does two things that will help you to be happy every day. First of all, it removes your focus from yourself and your problems. Secondly, it can be fun to know that you are helping someone else to be happy. Those two things alone, not to mention the nice response you may receive from the person you wrote to will help you to be happy every day.

5. Keep a gratitude journal. Write down at least five things every day that you are thankful for on that specific day. Thankfulness and happiness go hand in hand. When I'm almost ready to go to sleep at night, I can choose to focus on whatever I'm worried or upset about or I can write down things I'm thankful for. If I express gratitude right before falling asleep at night, I'll likely fall asleep thinking pleasant thoughts which helps me to be happy every day.

6. Volunteer to serve others less fortunate than you. It really feels good to help others. It also helps to put my own problems and circumstances into a proper perspective. Working with people who are homeless, for example, makes my little apartment seem like a palace. Helping other people helps me to be happy every day.

7. Get plenty of sleep and exercise. Lack of sleep is a common cause of depression. Getting adequate sleep can be hard to do when you feel that you have too much to do or are worried about things, but do everything within your power to get the rest you need. If you put yourself on a schedule and go to bed at the same time and get up at the same time every morning, your body will not only feel refreshed, but you will find it easier to go to sleep at night. Exercise is also a good stress reliever. Adequate sleep and exercise can both help you to be happy every day.

8. Do something fun or wacky. One day, when I was feeling especially blue, I, for some strange reason, decided to go outside and yell as loud as I could, "Life, I love you!" Yes, I felt a little silly, but as I ran back inside as quickly as I could, I laughed hard, and quickly moved out of my blue funk. Doing something fun or wacky can help you to be happy every day.

9. Forgive. If you harbor anger or bitterness toward someone, you are only hurting yourself. Let go of anger and bitterness and forgive, even if the person doesn't deserve to be forgiven.

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